Christmas in Singapore 2013

  I never really spent Christmas in Singapore as during the previous years, i was always overseas and would be pretty tired when i returned during the Christmas season. Last year December 2013, i did not go travelling as i have delayed my plans for my world tour in 2014. With my twin, we decided to go around Singapore and embarked on a journey of discovering Singapore during Christmas season. Most lights would be up in December, some places and decorations would be up as early as late November.

  Our first supposingly Christmas discovery was at Keppel Bay, actually Christmas discovery was not part of the plan, we were just there at Prive for dinner. However, i would like to mention, the place is very nice and quiet for little chats, it is near to Harbour Front MRT station, it would be better to drive in or take a cab in from the station.

  Our second Christmas discovery was at Marina Bay Sands area, this place is along the circle line, Bayfront station. That place really is a good photo spot. And along the little river area, there are Christmas trees that lined up the pathway, sponsored by many big companies. There was also this big Christmas tree in the Marina Bay shopping mall.

Lastly, how can anyone miss the Christmas lights at Orchard road. Every year, Orchard road would always be lighted up with decorations and bright lights, making everything so wonderful and magical.

Blind date and Color Run

Wicked Weekend Blind Date Edition

Ok i attended this wicked weekend blind date edition yesterday by lunch actually
http://www.lunchactually.com/wicked-weekend/

I was into this blind date idea as it is really interesting to do some speed date in the dark, and hearing only the voice of the other person. Isn't it challenging? The moment lunch actually sent me this, i registered for it immediately. After being shortlisted, i put on my best dress and took the trouble to doll up for the event. When i entered the ballroom in Hotel Fort Canning, i see flashes of light everywhere. Oh ya, did i say that SET (Sony Entertainment TV) is filming this down. There was a hall for the ladies and make up artists were there to do touch up for the ladies. DJ Shan Wee and Cheryl Miles were the hosts for the event, & Shan Wee is really tall. I was sitting right in front, and have to sit back abit so that my neck would not be too strained. We were divided into 4 groups and brought into dark chambers. Each gal has a cubicle to talk to a guy on the other side. I felt that i was like punishing myself, cos when i punished my pupils, i always asked them to go face the wall , (面壁思过) . And it also feels like, i am there to confessed to the pastor " pastor, i have sinned for still being single at my age!"

Back to the whole event, guys were rotated every 5mins, so every 5mins when they rotate, i be like " hello hello, testing 123, anyone there" It was quite fun at first, there were young voices, matured voices, intelligent voices...etc...etc. So after supposingly dated with 13 guys( actually there were 12) , i was totally exhausted, talking about almost the same things and cannot remember what i have told them. We were supposed to rate as we talk, giving 5 hearts to the person who can communicate with you very well. After everything, i was approached by this lady from another group, quite pretty and matured around my age, she asked me" you are very pretty, why are you still single?" Actually, deep down in me, i have this same question for her, and i believe our answers are the same, we are not choosy, we just cannot find the person with the same chemistry as us who can communicate with us. After the speed date, we were brought to the main hall, where we can mingle with guys from the other groups, there were 2 or 3 guys i thought i can talk to, but apparantly i could not find them in the hall. Perhaps, the organisers should first use 15mins to group those in the same groups together before opening up to other groups. I talked to 12 but i only manage to identify 6 of them. I could not find the rest. Its ok la, if i am fated to see them, i will see them somehow, somewhere, sometime...

Lastly, there were some games, and the winners for the staycation were announced. I did not get the staycation. It is ok, i still enjoy this blind date event and get to know some new friends. I would have stayed and interacted more if not for my Color Run after that.

Color Run 2013 in Sentosa

Color Run! I have waited for this for one month plus and was very excited about it. Alot of friends asked me, why is it that i do not join marathons, you know like 10k, 21k...Sorry la, 21k is too demanding on my knees, and i feel that i do not need to pay so much money to run with people in marathons. I ran to maintain my fitness level and i can do that on my own. This run is interesting, as it is not a competitive run but a fun run along the way. Anyway, It is finally held in Singapore. I remembered the day it opened up for registration, the early bird registration was full after two hours for the one on the 17th, i have to ask around if anyone has CIMB card to do the registration. Thanx to one of my friends who helped me with it!

At the run, you see happening people around, some dressed in wigs and afro, in colourful angelic skirts and white clothes. Very interesting sight. Everyone seemed to know each other, cheering people along the way, giving high fives as we passed by. Seeing the whole atmosphere, you just become happy automatically. I would say it is one of the most crazy things that i have ever done since i left university.

Here are the photos of the run.

After everything, we had a "good time" washing off the colour, my white bag became red. My neck still have pink patches...But still, i really had a good time! :)

Expensive Love

Recently, i have been watching the pretty popular matchmaking show in China 非诚勿扰 and i feel the dating scene has been very much commercialized nowadays. In the show, 24 beautiful ladies stood on the stage to either accept a man or "kick him out". Most of them are dressed up beautifully and a handful of them are high fliers in their line of work. I am not too sure if the participants have to pay a huge amount to join the programme but i read in an interview with one of the participants that the TV producers actually pay for their food and transport. The success of this matchmaking programme has attracted many advertisers and sponsors so i am sure they can easily afford it. And in order to join the programme, numerous interviews were conducted and usually the male participants have got to be high fliers too, either having a good career or a businessman and he would have a higher chance to be successful. I heard from my brother there was one participant who was just a bus driver and immediately, you see the ladies switching off their lights. Super realistic!

I wonder if this show would be successful if it is held in Singapore, I thought Singapore has quite alot of single men and women too, in fact more single women. Here, there are also alot of dating agencies. I used to join quite a number of singles dating events and even went for personalised dating and matching services. And sad to say, i was not very impressed with them. 

For Singles dating events, I used to attend activities like halloween in the zoo, Revel etc....
Halloween in the zoo is a very good concepts and it caters to a large number of singles at a very good price. But to know someone there, it is not going to be easy. It would be kinda "touch and go' and you would not be able to know someone to spark an interest within a short period of time. My friend was paired with a guy who would not let her sit inside while on the tram, and you know what, all those "ghosts" aimed her to scare her, how "gentleman"!
Revel is super expensive. The event costs 25 dollars and it was held at a pretty atas club in MBS. The only thing participants are provided is a mask. Ok nevermind, beforehand, we were informed, drinks on our own, and guess what, one small glass of red wine costs 30 dollars plus. Usual price for most clubs is at most 20. Participants were asked to do an activity and guess what, pens were not even provided. One of the organisers came talking to us, we said no one come to talk to us, she asked us to socialise...i thought shouldn't the organiser do something with facilitation and orientation instead.

And for personalised matching, i went for one who told me if i sign a package for 10 dates, it is 1000 dollars, that is to say on average, per date is 100. Of course, if i sign up for more dates, per date is like 80 dollars. Look, i need to pay thousands of dollars just to find someone to get attached? And what if i manage to be successful on the first few dates, the rest of the money would not even be refunded.

Everything is so expensive, even the activities are expensive too. How can the singles get attached and find someone? Unless they are willing to spend, or else the number of singles would keep increasing. 

Sentosa Eureka Challenge

I am again widening my social circle and meeting new friends. Yesterday, i went to this Sentosa Eureka Challenge. Its sort of sponsored by SDN and catered more for singles. I think its quite worth it, cos for a mere rate of 35dollars, you get a jewel cable car ride, a 4D magix show, a luge ride and a segway adventure plus lastly a sumptious bbq buffet dinner.

At first, i was very overwhelmed by the long queue at the Harbour Front tower 2. I noticed that alot of people came in groups...and i was alone...I felt really left out and was deciding if i should just leave. But considering the amount i have paid, i thought just go ahead and enjoy everything that is planned. First i was put into groups and i walked around Sentosa with my group members, quite a sporting group of people actually. Not those who are "princessy" and keep complaining about this and that...i think maybe i'm the most "princessy" one...

The host was also super entertaining with his "parrot lookalike" hair and his very attractive voice and jokes.

After the dinner, come the exchanging of Gokon cards. This card is whereby, you write your contacts on a card and approach the person you are interested in and pass him the card. I tell you ah...i did not write anything on the card...because...the only people i interacted with are my group members...i find that since we are only given such a short period of time, there is no way you can talk and make a quick and good impression on the person you are keen of knowing if the guy is in another group. I'm sorry to say that in this way, this was quite a flop. Anyway, i saw a few familiar faces that i have seen the last time at this movie event which was not good already. Those who asked me for my contacts last time, approached me again this time. As a matter a fact, i cannot remember their faces and names now, because no one left a deep or lasting impression on me. They just come to me and say ," Hi, can we exchange card?" I thought i just take their card...but actually i am really not willing to give them mine. At first, i just write my contacts for first few people. After that, i really find everything stupid.

LOOK, the card is for you to give to the person you are interested. (from the looks factor) If the person is not interested in you, he/ she can choose not to write or give you a card. You should not "force" and should just take rejections easily. I think i gave a really "uncomfortable" face...why is it that some people can't see body language...what's the purpose of getting the numbers when the other party is not keen?

Anyway i have about 11 contact cards with me, not alot...not very few either...but i am not flattered. My close friends...you should know the reason.

单身？

单身未必是件坏事，至少现在想做什么可以放胆去做，但是十年后的今天，我是否还会有同样的想法吗？

Lately...it was dawned upon me that i am still single. Perhaps that was because i watched too many dramas like Taiwanese drama "败犬女王” and Korean drama“我们结婚吧” . Both these dramas depict women in their 30s who are still looking for love. In the Taiwanese drama, the female lead is 33 years old who is a high flier in her career and she actually end up with this man 8 years younger...and in the Korean drama, it talked about how 34year old successful career woman found her love one and handle marriage and giving birth at a later age. Initially i was pretty cool, "aiya no bf no bf lo" I have the time to do what i want and the chance to indulge in "drama ma ma la la land" and not have any worries that " hey i neglected my bf or something"

However recently, receiving too many...really too many wedding invitations from my close friends and looking at my friends wedding pictures...i start to ponder...hey y am i still single? Am i really that bad? Do i have like super bad character? Am i not good looking and presentable at all? Am i not academically qualified?

"You are too picky la...your expectations too high..."

That was what my friends tell me but was i wrong to expect to find someone of equal or even higher standing with me? I am not looking for super good looking dudes with well trained model like guys...No!!! I only want someone presentable whom i can depend on and who would share life experiences with me. Someone who can provide security and make me feel like a 小女人 in front of him. Someone whom i idolises and share his knowledge about the world with me. Someone whom i know would be the one when i see him...

"this is hard...how do you know that person is the one???"

I asked this question to a friend who answers me this..." you would know it...it is the feeling...it just comes" ...i find it hard to comprehend...Something that till now i do not understand. I go around listening to love stories of friends and colleagues. When things happen, they just happen. 要挡都挡不了…！Most stories involve people who dun really know each other at first, but when one saw the other, immediately the guy wants to know the gal and think that she is the one. Amazing isn't it?

"So you got to start by knowing people first!!! With the kind of schedule and numerous personal activities you are having, how are you going to meet new people? FB? MSN???"

I admit i am a drama queen, who likes to stay at home watching korean & taiwanese dramas. Not only that, i am a loner...i can go jogging alone, go gym alone, do kickboxing alone, shop alone, eat alone...in fact if i have the time, i can sing alone too... That is how anti social i am...i tried to attend more events, like parties or even events...however...i actually got quite sick and tired of knowing new people this year especially, its like i actually enjoyed catching up with old friends at the parties more than knowing new people. & to say the truth...or perhaps its just me...i find some new people at parties very "hypocritical"...i mean some...not all...
Knowing people through facebook and conversing through the net is worse! Online is deceiving...we cannot hear the other party's voice and it is not easy knowing how the person feel. Some people can put themselves single, but they can be already attached or worse still married even! (Sorry to say...this is done by both men and women) However, i guess if i do know someone online, I think the best way to know him better is still through the traditional way...using the phone and personal meet ups...

"join social networking events and sites"

Ok i am actually a member of SDU since my company provides corporate membership. This is something interesting...MOE actually has a SDS coordinator who provide services for single people to find partners. So there was once i met up with my coordinator who asks me to fill up this really long questionaire and i come to know that there is actually quite a number of singles in my organisation. I feel pretty 丢脸, in the past when i see events from SDU, i just glanced through and put aside everything, i am super confident that i do not need to be a member. (moreover during that time i was attached) now...it seemed that i am trying to find worthwhile activities to go out. My coordinator arranged for one session for me with this guy, he is in every aspect an eligible bachelor, not as tall as what i wanted though. However i guess there are no sparks between us...he did not call me at all and i was not eager to wait for his call too.

Does that mean he is not the one? Then i wonder how many more such "matchmaking" sessions am i suppose to go for before knowing the one.A part of me is craving for companionship but another part of me is telling me that it is such a tiring process, can he just drop down from the sky and tell me, hello i am the one!
My colleugue tells me, “不要强求，这是急不来的” I guess i just got to go with the flow, there is no harm knowing more people, i shall just accept the single "golden pass" to widen my social circle and get to know people who are sincere and not be bounded by the restrictions of being attached. I still believe, my special someone is waiting for me somewhere...

This reminds me of this song...Especially the very last part of the chorus...

遇见
听见冬天的离开
我在某年某月醒过来
我想我等我期待
未来却不能理智安排

阴天傍晚车窗外
未来有一个人在等待
向左向右向前看
爱要拐几个弯才来

我遇见谁会有怎样的对白
我等的人他在多远的未来
我听见风来自地铁和人海
我排著队拿著爱的号码牌

我往前飞飞过一片时间海
我们也常在爱情里受伤害
我看著路梦的入口有点窄
我遇见你是最美丽的意外
终有一天我的谜底会揭开

A very dramatic experience

Something happened to me yesterday...which don't make me feel very good. I always thought such things only happen in dramas but it happened in real life too.

Actually the story supposed to end but forgiving me decides to carry on the "friendship"...

I have more or less forgotten the ambiguous relationship with him and decides to catch up just as friends do after 5 months. So we actually planned to meet up yesterday. Before the meet up, he actually suggested to go swimming after dinner which i objected. I don't feel good swimming with him, when i have not seen him for 5months and it is very troublesome bringing all my toiletries and stuff...(This was because i thought he wanted to swim like maybe the condo areas in town)...So he was like ok that we skip swimming. Then towards the meet up time at 7 plus, he sms me that he will pick me up in Bugis area since i would be there settling something. Things start to go sour after that...he sms again,"you really never bring your swim wear ah, i'm at gallery hotel and there is a pool bar here. Actually i want to take a nap, so maybe you come over to find me here."

To the gals: How do you feel when a guy whom you have not met for some time ask you to go HOTEL to swim, and that you have to look for him instead? (I feel extremely weird and scared, what is he trying to do? & I keep emphasizing i do not want to swim already)
To the guys: Would you ever ask a gal to go to the Hotel to look for you and swim when it is like 5months since you last met? Shouldn't it be just a normal dinner date to talk and catch up?

so, instead of fetching me, he actually want me to go to gallery hotel to find him...I was not very much affected yet but i dislike the idea of going there myself. So i asked him jokingly if he is suntanning anot (cos take nap wat) , and added that i am not interested to go to the hotel to meet him and asked if we can eat elsewhere. He replied," i have a room here and i am lazy to drive over, so i thought we can just eat here at the hotel. "
The thought of having a hotel room there make me wonder even more, maybe i am just being too imaginative but since it is supposed to be just a simple meet up, why is there a room involved???

I replied," since you are tired, we should meet another day."
I cannot stand the idea of going to the hotel alone...it is like going to the tiger's den...

He replied," No i'm ok. Thought we already said to have dinner, pool dip in which you can just sit by the pool side bar and drinks? Y change the meet up? Ok i 'll pick you up at 7 then."

So i thought everything is ok...he will come fetch me...Then the most drama one is the last message, he sms," so you really don't want to come here by yourself, or i pay for your cab la!"
Hey, what does he think i am? Am i not important enough even as a friend? Somemore gallery hotel and bugis is not very far. And am i not capable enough to pay for my cab fare? I feel that he is like looking down on me like that. Miss Jadebottle has her pride and principles lo!!! If i am to go there myself by cab, do you know what it feels like? It is like a bloody social escort!!! I'm sorry, i just cannot help thinking this way. I feel that as a friend, at least meet me first before going for dinner together, not "cheapening" myself by going there alone...(actually if meet at a crowded convenient place,i don't mind and i won't feel so funny,but going to the hotel...?)

I was very pissed already! I replied," I am not very happy with your last sms. I can always make my own way down and pay for my own transport. I have no mood to meet you now. You go find your friends ba!"

His reply is damm sarcastic," But you sounded like its like that. Anyway i don't like to drive around that area because its very jam. I can have dinner by myself...No big deal..."

I stopped all my messages with him. My patience has reached the limit. I do not know if i did the right thing by giving him the Boeing 747 this time or if i imagined too much and was too paranoid. My dear friends, what do you all think?
Anyway from this incident, i know he can just disappear from my life from now. I don't even want to have a friend like him. So what if he is rich and driving a black Audi TT, he is just an AH SIA spending his parents' hard earned money...Oh my what a JERK!

不要以为你有一些臭钱就可以为所欲为，我呸， 呸，呸！！！

Wakeboarding + Spooky trail at nite

Wakeboarding

Yesterday was a very very exciting day. I tried wakeboarding for the first time...and really had alot of fun....Though i tink i am terribly lousy...couldn manage to stand and balance...the moment i tried to stand, i fall...and not only that i strained my arm muscles. When i went home,i still need to prepare to go for the Spooky trail organised by API and Punggol CC.

Here are some photos...Before wakeboarding
During wake boarding, i 'm damm tired...cant climb up...so paisehAll of us...we planned to go again next month...

Posing with Raymond's board...with Duncan and Raymond
After everything...So tired but enjoyable.

Spooky Trail
After that went to join Ivy in this spooky trail in the evening. First we went o Labrador Park where there are 2 tunnels...They say some people saw things in the 2nd tunnel...well...i din see anything and i dun wanna see also...For someone who always freak out at horror shows, i thought i just wanna test if i am daringThis is the first tunnel...it is more lit up....Did not really take any photos in the 2nd tunnel...after that we went to Grange Road to see 3 deserted big houses. No photos though
Taken on the bus while the rest went for a break...The next stop was coffee hill which i got pretty scared...cos the forest trail is very dark and i keep having shivers...while walkin, i only looked at the ground, it was to make sure i din step onto any muddy ground but i am just preventing myself from seeing anything i not supposed to see. Last stop was CCK cemetary, it was pretty crowded......dun worry its all humans...i supposed... cos there are priests doing rituals.Its quite an interesting tour, i learnt quite alot of things.The API leader was telling us alot of stories on our way back but i was so tired i fell asleep.Hey whole day out leh...but fulfilling!

A colour test (seemed more suitable for the singles)

Just for Fun...my friend sent to me...

between four colour combinations, please choose one:
a. Orange + Yellow
b. Red + Yellow
c. Purple + Pink
d. Green + Pink

What did u choose? Here's the analysis...

Orange + Yellow
你过于保护自己让人觉得太过现实，考虑太多现实层面的状况会让你太过理智，显得过于保护自己，一旦觉得不快乐的时候就马上拒绝对方，这样的态度自然阻挡了追求者的出现，而且记得要把对旧情人的爱完全放掉，才能重新找到新感情。

Red + Yellow
因为你的强势而把追求者吓跑了，基本上你太过大男人或大女人主意，具有强烈的掌握欲望，处处想要占上风，所以你会想要约束对方，但这样的态度反而会让人不敢接近。

Purple + Pink
太过被动的等待爱情是你的致命伤，如果想要被人追求就得先转变生活圈，才有可能遇到好的对象。选择这个颜色的人个性会比较保守而且对爱完全理想化，虽然平时给人家的感觉是非常开放的，但是她的内在却非常传统，一旦谈恋爱就做好嫁人的心理准备。

Green + Pink
眼光太高而且爱挑剔别人的你，让人有距离感不敢靠近你，试着把标准放低一点，追求者自然会出现。

BTW i chose purple + pink...i tink quite true only la...not very true for the last part...i thought

"ARRESTED"??

I was sent to the police headquarters yesterday night...

HAHAHAHA
GUESS WAT HAPPEN....???

Actually i did not commit any offence...i was watching X men with my friend and after the show, he accidentally left his hp on the seat. It was just within 2 min when he discovered but he could not find it when we return there. I tried to call his phone and that BLOODY DAMMED PHONE "STEALER" off the hp.

I can feel the 心痛 cos 2 yrs ago, when i used to be in AM, my phone was pickpocketed in crowded Wisma Atria. My friend who was with me also got hers stolen too. The person who did it was dammed skilful. Can you imagine, all my friends contacts are lost especially it was so impt to me that time.I cooped myself up at home for 2 days, troubled over the loss.

So anyway, my friend's phone was only 3months old...at that time i wish i was Jean Gray who has psychic powers, then i can use my powers and make that phone stealer explode on the spot!!!hahaha den shall get the phone float back to him.... but of course....its kinda impossible, i am not a mutant.

As he is from the SPF, i went with him to report the loss and settle the necessary stuff. First time 大摇大摆地去警局...thats how i ended up there lo.

Anyway, go to hell that phone stealer, and may his hands rot for 七七四十九天 for taking things that don't belong to him!!!

Valentine's Day

I HATE VDAY...

(To those who don't wanna get depressed, then do not continue reading)

I never think that vday is that special, even when i was 17 and i received my first supposingly vday gift from a guy (i was fr a gals sch)...As i grow older, this day to me was friendship day as all my fellow girl frens are all like me...single and free...(my concept is this day can only be spent with very good frens or my that special one). When i know my ex bf 2yrs back, i thought finally i can spend this day more fulfilling, however, i realised its nothing much.

Last year's vday was spend at home, engrossed in work. Today i initially wanted to spend it at home too after school, but went out for dinner with a very good fren.The streets are filled with so many lovey dovey couples with flowers in their hands....i felt damm bloody uncomfortable and in addition i keep harboring the thought that i have not finished my assignment. Therefore after dinner, i decide i must escape from this "reality", i must go home!

Ok, i have no dates so wat!(i just cannot go out with anyone that i have no feelings for rite and my girl frens now mostly attached...), no vday gifts, no flowers (i 'm not crazy about flowers but...peer pressure works)...

I am starting to feel more and more inferior and less confident of myself. Sometimes i wonder should i just continue in my search for my 理想情人 "dream lover"or just accept anyone that comes into my life....haiz...